I'll be honest: my appearance has definitely taken a back burner since the baby was born. Ok, I'll be completely honest: I've NEVER really taken that much time to look nice. I don't like waking up early. I like to sleep until the last possible second. Sad, I know.
Plus, my sisters have always been the pretty ones. I was content to let them be.Well, a few weeks ago I saw a frumpy mom somewhere and felt bad for her, when I realized she probably felt just as bad for me. I had no makeup, hair wasn't done, who knows what I was wearing. Not that appearance is everything, but I have just gone for so long feeling UGLY that I decided I was done with that.
Now, every morning (almost) and usually by 10am I have showered, done my hair, put on makeup (I even fell victim of advertising and bought Almay eyeshadow that is supposed to compliment my blue eyes) and try to wear something that isn't dirty. (sometimes not possible, but we do what we can.) It has been a great change for me to care a little more about my appearance.
Alana is usually with me in the bathroom while I put my "pretties" on. I thought about whether or not this would affect her negatively. (to see me putting on makeup.) She'll probably just start getting into it as soon as she's big enough. I don't want to pressure my daughters to wear or not wear makeup. They can do what they think is best, although I will definitely teach them the tasteful way of wearing makeup. I felt like my mom did a good job of this. She never pierced her ears, but she knew how to look nice.
Anyway, all I'm really saying is that frumpy days happen now in then . That's fine for me. But I have definitely had a lift in my spirits since putting forth a little more effort to look nice. (As a side note, Stuart hasn't really noticed. He thinks I look good no matter what, which is an essential characteristic in a husband. But even though he would prefer that I didn't wear makeup, he wants me to feel good about how I look.)
9 comments:
Good for you! It's not easy, I know. I'll tell you what my mom told me when Lauren was born. When you are a mom, taking care of your child becomes your job. Treat it that way. Make sure you get ready for the day as if you were going to work. That was such good advice. I make sure I shower, put on my make up and do my hair every morning. I think I take better care of Lauren and get more done during the day because I feel like I have it together. It does make a difference but boy is it hard when sweats are so comfy. Rob also comments on how he appreciates my effort to take care of myself and get ready each day. Keep it up Crystal!
By the way...you're full of it. You are one of the "pretty ones" too.
It is so hard to fit in time for yourself...it is nice to fancy yourself up in the morning. More days than not I am running out the door looking like frumpy mom! I'll have to work on that!
I liked this entry, half the time I am running errands in sweatpants, oh well!! So I might have missed a blog entry but I see your "bean ticker". Does that mean you are pregnant or did I miss something about an ealrlier bean entry?
Crystal, you are too hard on yourself. I've always thought that you are very pretty. You have inner and outer beauty and I really admire you. I agree with your friend Angie's comment. When you take the time to take care of yourself you are better able to take care of others. That doesn't necessarily have to include makeup and whatnot, but I think as long as you take care of yourself so you are happy with yourself, then you will be better suited to care for others. Love ya!!!
I feel like a frumpy mom all the time! It is pretty pathetic. I try and try to be better at getting ready for the day, but I always end up slacking....you've seen me at story time. :) Hopefully I can be better at getting ready each day too! Thanks for helping me to realize that I'm not the only one that feels this way!
I have tried to make an effort to get ready each day, but getting ready takes effort that sometimes (I should say most of the time) I just don't want to put out - lol.
Thanks for your input on my question on my blog. I don't think that babies should be forced to come out just because the doctor says. I really think we will just wait until she is ready to come and my body is ready. I had pitocin with the boys but only because my water had broken and I wasn't progressing even a tiny bit (not dilated at all) so it was helping me along after I had already been in labor - but it was awful and painful, but in that situation I understood - I just can't see convenience being a reason to do it this time. Thank you for expressing your opionion and giving me that link!!! Hope that you are doing well with your little girl, and with the one inside you :)
Nice work! I decided that Mom's really should get some kind of pay! Keep it up!
I can totally relate! I usually am half ready for the day all day and when I see Spencer walking up the path... I run and get the other half ready! (Just don't tell him that!)
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