At my midwife appointment last week I convinced her to move my due date back a week, to the 16th. Really for me that just means I won't be pressured to be induced too soon. I think at 42 weeks I'd be ok with it, or with a medical reason, but otherwise I just want to let this baby come when she comes. I gained 6 pounds this month, so we must have had a growth spurt! Anyway, in my way of thinking, due dates are kind of silly, because why would you expect every baby to need exactly the same amount of time when everyone is so different? So, I'm expecting her to come between the 10th and the 20th, and I REALLY hope she comes by the 30th!
This baby is getting very strong, and she likes to kick my ribs on the right side just like Alana did. I love it! I just read Essential Exercises for the Childbearing Year by Elizabeth Noble and am SO pumped for the birth of this baby. I just felt empowered reading it, realizing that my body is amazing and can give birth! It's definitely helping ease the fear about my abilities! This book is now #1 on my list of essential books for every pregnant woman to read!
In my family I'm considered the lucky one because I never got hay fever growing up. I think I might have had it for a week my 3rd year of college right before I got married, but other than that I just haven't been able to sympathize with people who get seasonal allergies. That is, until now. Since this weekend I have had the worst allergies. I hope they are allergies, anyway, since I'm coughing, sneezing, itching, congested, runny, etc... The coughing seems to be caused by the itching though, so I don't know. If it isn't allergies it's the worst cold of my life.
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Well, my opinion with the birthing choices (and all marital choices) thing: the person who is most invested gets to trump the decision. For example, my FIL is a SAHD. Since he's the one who would be most invested in homeschooling, he gets to trump that decision. For pregnant moms, if you're the one who has the uterus, you're the one who gets to trump birthing choices. But that's just me.
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Hi! This is the midwife that was at my brother Dallas' birth. (When we lived where you live now!) My mom really likes her and she might be able to give you some advice? Good luck with all your decision making! I'm sure everything is going to be great no matter what!
So I probably wasn't very helpful with that last comment. I do feel very strongly about this.
My advice would be to take Stuart with you as you interview midwives. Sometimes men have many "what ifs" and since they aren't usually the ones researching, those "what ifs" aren't ever answered. Bringing him with, his questions could be answered by the midwife and perhaps his mind would be set more at ease. If it's not something he's researched himself, he's probably not familiar with the amount of education a homebirth midwife has, that most midwives carry oxygen for resuscitation, anesthesia for tears, and many carry pitocin for hemorrhage.
I still really feel that the mom gets the final say, though. Mom's comfort and stress levels directly affect the baby. I'd rather give birth where I feel safe than where McKay feels safe, if that's going to affect how relaxed I am- and ultimately how the baby feels.
I think that is a REALLY good idea to have your due date moved back. Last time I vowed that I would tell myself that I was due a month later than I really was, because I had the HARDEST time being patient and waiting it out the last month-- Asher ended up coming on his due date and now I am afraid that if this one is a little later than her due date I'll be going bonkers. Maybe I should push my date back too and save myself some grief!
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